亲密关系离不开什么英语作文
Intimate relationship:the long-term growth between husband and wife is inparable from common growth.
When it comes to intimacy,many of us think of the relationship between husband and wife.In fact,the original meaning of this word refers to the harmonious relationship between two people regardless of gender and age.Since most of us accept that intimacy refers to the relationship between husband and wife,our theme tonight also revolves around the relationship between husband and wife.
For a long time,intimacy has played a very important role in our lives.Although most of us have deep and deep expectations for intimacy,the reality is that few people really enjoy the nourishment brought by this relationship.In the process of loving and being loved,we have all experienced pain,fear,ecstasy and bliss.We are eager to establish an eternal and sincere intimacy,However,they are afraid of getting hurt in the relationship.Therefore,it often happens in life that no matter how sincere our intentions and how hard we act,the status qu
o and results of our relationship are becoming more and more problematic,even disturbing.We experience confusion,poor communication,mutual rentment,emotional alienation,lack of mutual support,and the final or worst result is the rupture and paration of relationships.
This must not be the purpo of our quest for intimacy,is it?So tonight,let's follow the process of the occurrence and development of the intimate relationship and help us e what the real intimate relationship should bring us and how we can get nourishment and growth in the intimate relationship?
Do you remember your first love?At the beginning of the sweet period of love,many lovers ud to eat,talk in a sweet way,love to repeat their words,and call their babies.If they don't get in touch with each other for a day,they will fantasize about whether something has happened to the other party,or whether they no longer love me,and feel good and incure,right?If you listen to the class,you can take your ats by yourlf.Think about yourlf at that time.Are you attached to each other like a baby.At th
at time,what you said,saw and heard was"good".Both men and women were in a state of passion.Both sides were idealistic.They thought that TA satisfied me in one aspect and would also satisfy me in other aspects,resulting in a generalized cognition.Even some paranoid people thought that as long as I looked at each other with one eye,they could understand me and should understand me.
For us,the intimate relationship at this time fully satisfies a very big instinctive demand of us as human beings-the need for integration.Integration brings a n of integration and undifferentiation.This feeling of integration brings great satisfaction and happiness to both parties in love.This period can be called the romantic period of intimate relationship.
The reality is that no two people can really remain in a state of integration,nor can any relationship be maintained in a state of passion.According to psychology,such days can last for 3 to 24 months.When we return to reason,we will begin to find the so-called"bad"side of the other party.At this time,the intoxicating love slowly returns to reality with the passage of time,and the quarrels between husband and wife are increasing,Even
feel the scars.At this time,we often wonder how we liked such a person before.It must be that this person was too good at camouflage and deceived himlf.At this time,the common state of two people getting along is chaos.The classic dialogue between two people who often quarrel:"why did you do this to me?""Isn't that what you ud to do to me?""What I did to you is not what you did to me before?"Both of them try to tell each other that you are the chief culprit that makes our relationship wor.At the same time,both of them hope that the other party will become the one they want.Once the other party fails to do so,they will feel disappointed,injured and angry.
From the experience of a large number of consultation cas,we can find that anger is actually a means of protection for one's inability to deal with the current problems,becau anger can paralyze the pain in our hearts,overcome all emotions,and even paralyze the feeling of the body.Moreover,by losing your temper,you can also make the other party feel guilty.In this way,you can effectively control the behavior of the other party.
Therefore,with the ineffective communication and the escalation of violence,we feel disappointed and injured again and again.The two people become more and more speechless,emotionally estranged,no longer communicate and no longer expect,and then suppress and transfer their own needs.
Both men and women will find a legally and reasonably emotional cheating partner.For example,men start to spend a lot of time busy with work,and women start to focus all their attention on children,and u such a third party to replace the two people who are increasingly incompatible with each other.But work and children can bring a n of value,but they cannot experience the intimacy between the two xes.The need for intimacy is a basic human need,which can not be replaced by work and children.Until one day,when you are really hungry,you may find someone to cheat to meet your emotional needs.Therefore,there must be a period of apathy before a relationship derails.
