unit2communicationproblems新编大学英语第二版第二册课文翻译

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Unit?2?Communication?Problems
Speaking Different Languages
John Gray
[1] When Martians and Venusians first got together, they encountered many of the problems with relationships we have today. Becau they recognized that they were different, they were able to solve the problems. One of the crets of their success was good communication.
[2] Ironically, they communicated well becau they spoke different languages. When they had problems, they would just go to a translator for assistance. Everyone knew that people from Mars and people from Venus spoke different languages, so when there was a conflict they didn't start judging or fighting but instead pulled out their phra dictionaries to understand each other more fully. If that didn't work they went to a translator for help.
[3] You e, the Martian and Venusian languages had the same words but different meanings depending on the way they were ud. Their expressions were similar, but they had different connotations or emotional emphasis. Misinterpreting each other was very easy. So when communication problems emerged, they assumed it was just one of tho expected misunderstandings and that with a little assistance they would surely understand each other. They experienced a trust and acceptance that we rarely experience today.
[4] Even today we still need translators. Men and women ldom mean the same things even when they u the same words. For example, when a woman says, “I feel like you never listen,” she does not expect the word “never” to be taken literally. Using the word “never” is just a way of expressing the frustration she is feeling at the moment. It is not to be taken as if it were factual information.
[5] To fully express their feelings, women would tend to exaggerate the facts a little bit for effect and u various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take
the expressions literally. Becau they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive manner. In the following chart ten complaints easily misinterpreted are listed, as well as how a man might respond unsupportively.
Ten Common Complaints That Are Easily Misinterpreted
Women say things like this: Men respond like this:
“We never go out.” “That's not true. We went out last week.”
“Everyone ignores me.” “I'm sure some people notice you.”
“I am so tired, I can't do anything.” “If you don't like your job, then quit.”
“I want to forget everything.” “I don't think there's anything to forget.”
“The hou is always a mess.” “It's not always a mess.”
“No one listens to me anymore.” “But I'm listening to you right now.”
“Nothing is working.” “Are you saying it is my fault”
“You don't love me anymore.” “Of cour I do. That's why I'm here.”
“We are always in a hurry.” “We are not. Friday we were relaxed.”
“I want more romance.” “Are you saying I am not romantic”
[6] You can e how a “literal” translation of a woman's words could easily mislead a man who is ud to using speech as a means of conveying only facts and information. You can also e how a man's respons might lead to an argument. Unclear and unloving communication is the biggest problem in relationships. The number one complaint women have in relationships is: “I don't feel heard.”
[7] Even this complaint is misunderstood and misinterpreted!
[8] A man's literal translation of “I don't feel heard” leads him to take the woman's complaint lightly. He thinks he has heard her if he can repeat what she has said. A correct
translation of a woman saying “I don't feel heard” is: “I feel as though you don't fully understand what I really mean to say or care about how I feel. Would you show me that you are interested in what I have to say”
[9] If a man really understood her complaint, then he would argue less and be able to respond more positively. When men and women are on the verge of arguing, they generally misunderstand each other. At such times, it is important to rethink or translate what they have heard.
说着不同的语言
1  当火星人和金星人最初相聚时,也遇到了我们目前存在的许多人际关系问题。他们之所以能够解决这些问题是因为他们认识到相互之间的差异。他们成功的秘诀之一就是良好的交流沟通。
2  具有讽刺意味的是,他们交流沟通的成功却是因为他们说着不同的语言。当他们遇到问题时,就去找翻译帮助。众所周知,他们每个人都清楚火星人和金星人语言不同,因此,
一旦遇到冲突,他们并不去评论是非或争斗,相反,他们会掏出自己的短语词典,以便更全面地理解对方。如果这样无效的话,他们就去找翻译帮助。
3  你明白吗你知道,火星语和金星语用的词相同,但是所表达的含义却不同,这要根据词的用法来决定。两种语言的措词尽管相似,但是措辞的内涵却不同,所侧重的情感也不同。相互之间很容易误解。因此,当交谈出现问题时,他们推断这只不过是一个误解而已,是预料中的,只要得到些许帮助他们就必定能够彼此理解。他们体验到的是一种相互间的信任和认同,这是我们今天很少能体验到的。
4  即使在今天,我们依然需要翻译。男人和女人即便用词相同,他们所表达的含义也很少相同。例如:当女人说:“我觉得你从不听我说话,”她希望对方不要从字面上理解“从不”这个词。使用“从不”这个词只不过是用来表达她此时此刻感到非常失望。不要把它当作真实的意思来理解。
5  为了充分表达她们的感受,女人们往往会把事实夸大一点以引起注意,并使用各种最高级,隐喻以及推论。男人错误地从字面上来理解这些用语。他们误解了女人想要表达的意思,便常常以不赞同的态度,来回答她们。下面列有十句女人的抱怨话,这些都是很容易
被男人误解的,同时也列出了男人以不赞同的态度可能做出的回答。容易被男人误解十种抱怨
==女人这样说:男人这样回答:
==“我们从不一起出去。” “不对,我们上周还出去过。”
==“所有人都不理睬我。” “我敢肯定有人关注你。”
==“我太累了,我什么也干不了了。” “要是你不喜欢自己的工作,那就辞职。”
==“我讨厌所有的一切。” “我没觉得有什么让你讨厌的。”
==“家里总是乱七八糟。” “并不总是这么乱。”
==“再也没人听我说话了。” “我不正在听你说嘛。”

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