You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” becau it is one of the

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You must have been troubled by when to say “I love you” becau it is one of the greatest puzzles in our life. What if you say it first and your partner doesn’t love you back? Or if they do say it but you don’t feel they mean it? Being the first to declare your love can be nerve racking(紧张）and risky and can leave you feeling as vulnerable as a turtle with no shell. But is the person who says it first really in a position of weakness? Doesn’t it pay to hold back, play it cool and wait until the other half has shown their hand fast? A really good relationship should be about “being fair and being equal,” says psychologist Sidney Crown. “But love is ldom equal.” All relationships go through power struggles but, he says, if a love imbalance continues for years, the rot will t in. “That feeling of ‘I’ve always loved you more’ may be subverted(颠覆，破坏) for a time, but it never goes away completely and it often emerges in squabbling(大声争吵).”  In love, at least, the silent, withholding type is not always the most powerful. “The strongest one in a relationship is often the person who feels confident enough to talk about their feelings,” says educational psychologist Ingrid Collins. Psychoxual therapist Paula Hall agrees. “The one with the upper hand is often the person who takes the initiative. In fact, the person who says ‘I love you’ first may also be the one who says ‘I’ m bored with you’ first.” Hall believes that much depends on how “I love you” is said and the motivation of the person saying it. “Is it said when they’re drunk? Is it said before their partner files off on holiday, and what it really means is ‘Plea don’ t be unfaithful to me’ ?” By saying ‘I love you’, they are really saying ‘Do you love me?’ If so, wouldn’t it just be more honest to say that. Collins agrees that intention is everything. “It’s not what is said, but how it’s said. What it comes down to is the sincerity of the speaker.”小题1: What is the main idea of this passage?A．The importance of “I love you” B．The meaning of “I love you” C．The time of saying “I love you” D．The place of saying “I love you”小题2: In the first ntence the author means that _________.A．it is easy to say “I love you” B．it is hard to say “I love you” C．we have many troubles in our lifeD．people usually do not know when to say “I love you”小题3: According to the expert, a good relationship should be _______.A．fair and equal B．fair and kindC．powerful and equalD．confident and fair小题4: In the third paragraph, the phra “with the upper hand” means _________.A．being low in spiritB．having only one handC．being active D．being passive 题型：未知难度：其他题型

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小题1:C小题1:D小题1:A小题1: C

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据考高分专家说，试题“You must have been t.....”主要考查你对 [人生感悟类阅读 ]考点的理解。 人生感悟类阅读

人生感悟类阅读的概念：

生活感悟类的文章就是指能给人心灵以启迪，使人从中受到教育的文章。这类文章的体裁可以是记叙文，如生活中一些感人故事或情感故事，有点类似心灵鸡汤一样的短文。

生活感悟类阅读解题指导：

一、文章特点： 生活感悟类的文章就是指能给人心灵以启迪，使人从中受到教育的文章。这类文章的体裁可以是记叙文，如生活中一些感人故事或情感故事，有点类似心灵鸡汤一样的短文。有时故事的结尾会有一句“点睛之笔”，点出全文的中心思想，就像《伊索寓言》里的寓言一样。还可能是夹叙夹议的哲理散文或生活随笔。散文随笔通常会阐述一种朴素易懂，耳熟能详的人生道理或宝贵品质。文章的结构和议论文类似，一般是总分总或总分结构。每段首句或尾句为主题句（论点），其它句子围绕主题展开论述（论据），论证方法多种多样，或举例，或引用名言，或正反对照等。二、解题技巧：针对生活感悟类文章的特点，做这类文章的完形填空时，要特别注意以下几点：1、重点理解全文的首句。如果是记叙文，找出when，where，who，what等基本要素。如果是散文随笔，充分理解文章的中心句—全文的主题。2、阅读全文的结尾段或结尾句，有助于理解文章所阐述或蕴含的哲理、感悟或忠告等。3、调动自己的背景知识和情感。这类文章不会讲大道理也不会涉及到一些很专业的知识技术领域，而是谈一些小事和简单的道理，所以如果读者能和作者产生感情上的共鸣，读者会更好地把握作者的意图态度，从而提高做题的准确度。因此，考生在平时要做一个有心人，即用心去感悟生活中发生的小事，思考人生的一些基本道理，多阅读一些短小精悍的美文，多写写自己的心情故事和对生活学习的感悟。只有平时多用心，做题时才能调动自己的背景知识和情感。