There's more to life than being happy
人生不只是要快乐
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I ud to think the whole purpo of life was pursuing happiness. Everyone said the path to happiness was success, so I arched for that ideal job, that perfect boyfriend, that beautiful apartment. But instead of ever feeling fulfilled, I felt anxious and adrift. And I wasn't alone; my friends -- they struggled with this, too.
我曾经认为人生的意义便是追寻快乐。世人普遍认为成功是通往幸福的道路，因此我寻找理想的工作，完美的伴侣还有舒适的住处。可我非但没有感到充实，反而感到焦虑迷茫。这种情况不止发生在我身上，我身边的朋友也一样。
班主任班级寄语00:33
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Eventually, I decided to go to graduate school for positive psychology to learn what truly ma
kes people happy. But what I discovered there changed my life. The data showed that chasing happiness can make people unhappy. And what really struck me was this: the suicide rate has been rising around the world, and it recently reached a 30-year high in America. Even though life is getting objectively better by nearly every conceivable standard, more people feel hopeless, depresd and alone. There's an emptiness gnawing away at people, and you don't have to be clinically depresd to feel it. Sooner or later, I think we all wonder: Is this all there is? And according to the rearch, what predicts this despair is not a lack of happiness. It's a lack of something el, a lack of having meaning in life.
最终我决定去研修“积极心理学”，去研究什么才能让人们感到真正幸福。我的成果改变了我的人生。数据显示一味寻求快乐反而得不到快乐。同时让我震惊的是：全球的自杀率都在上升，最近美国的自杀率达到了30年来的最高峰。但事实上人们的生活水平在你能想到的领域上都有所提升，越来越多的人感到绝望，抑郁以及孤独。即使你不是抑郁症患者，也能感受到空虚感正侵蚀着我们的内心。迟早，我们都会疑惑：人生就是如此了吗？研究显示造成这种绝望感的并不是生活缺乏快乐。而是因为生命缺少了人生的意义。微波炉使用说明
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But that raid some questions for me. Is there more to life than being happy? And what's the difference between being happy and having meaning in life? Many psychologists define happiness as a state of comfort and ea, feeling good in the moment. Meaning, though, is deeper. The renowned psychologist Martin Seligman says meaning comes from belonging to and rving something beyond yourlf and from developing the best within you. Our culture is obsd with happiness, but I came to e that eking meaning is the more fulfilling path. And the studies show that people who have meaning in life, they're more resilient, they do better in school and at work, and they even live longer.
因此我思索人生除了快乐还有什么更重要的事情？以及快乐的人生与有意义的人生有什么不同？很多心理学家把快乐定义为一种安心舒适的状态，在当下感到开心。意义则有更深的含义。著名的心理学家马丁·赛里格曼认为意义来源于归属和献身高于自我的事物还有塑造最好的自己。我们的文化醉心于寻求快乐，但我意识到寻求意义更能让你有满足感。研究显示有意义的人生让人更变得更坚毅，在学业和事业上更成功，寿命也更长。
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So this all made me wonder: How can we each live more meaningfully? To find out, I spent five years interviewing hundreds of people and reading through thousands of pages of psychology, neuroscience and philosophy. Bringing it all together, I found that there are what I call four pillars of a meaningful life. And we can each create lives of meaning by building some or all of the pillars in our lives.
这一切都让我思考：如何才能让人生更有意义？为了找出答案，我在五年间采访了几百余人并翻阅了浩海如烟的心理学，神经系统学和哲学文献。经过所有这些努力，我发现构成有意义的人生需要四大支柱。只要我们能构建全部或部分支柱。我们所有人都能拥有有意义的人生。
02:54大豆科学
The first pillar is belonging. Belonging comes from being in relationships where you're valued for who you are intrinsically and where you value others as well. But some groups
and relationships deliver a cheap form of belonging; you're valued for what you believe, for who you hate, not for who you are. True belonging springs from love. It lives in moments among individuals, and it's a choice -- you can choo to cultivate belonging with others.
第一大支柱便是：归属感。归属感来源于人际关系中你的内在价值在哪里，以及同时你对别人的价值认可。但某些组织和人际关系给予廉价的归属感；你的价值在于你的信仰，在于你讨厌谁，而不是你是谁。真正的归属感来源于爱。它时时刻刻都萦绕在你身边，这是个选择——你可以选择跟谁培养归属感。
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晕车药有哪些药品Here's an example. Each morning, my friend Jonathan buys a newspaper from the same street vendor in New York. They don't just conduct a transaction, though. They take a moment to slow down, talk, and treat each other like humans. But one time, Jonathan didn't have the right change, and the vendor said, "Don't worry about it." But Jonathan insisted on paying, so he went to the store and bought something he didn't need to make
change. But when he gave the money to the vendor, the vendor drew back. He was hurt. He was trying to do something kind, but Jonathan had rejected him.
举一个例子。我的朋友乔纳森每天都在纽约同一家小店里买报纸。他和店主不止是商业交易。他们会花点时间聊聊天，很亲切地对待对方。有一次乔纳森没有零钱，店主就说，“没事，不用付了”但乔纳森坚持付钱，为了换零钱他去店里买了些他不用的东西。当他把钱给店主的时候，店主拒绝了。他心里很受伤。他本想慷慨对人，但乔纳森拒绝了他的好意。
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I think we all reject people in small ways like this without realizing it. I do. I'll walk by someone I know and barely acknowledge them. I'll check my phone when someone's talking to me. The acts devalue others. They make them feel invisible and unworthy. But when you lead with love, you create a bond that lifts each of you up.
我想我们都会在无意中伤害他人。我也如此。我有时撞见我认识的人却没打招呼。有时候我在别人和我说话时看手机。这种做法贬低了他人。让他们觉得自己没有存在感和价值。但当你用爱联系他人，你建立的纽带就激励了你们双方。
爱比克泰德04:30
For many people, belonging is the most esntial source of meaning, tho bonds to family and friends. For others, the key to meaning is the cond pillar: purpo. Now, finding your purpo is not the same thing as finding that job that makes you happy. Purpo is less about what you want than about what you give. A hospital custodian told me her purpo is healing sick people. Many parents tell me, "My purpo is raising my children." The key to purpo is using your strengths to rve others. Of cour, for many of us, that happens through work. That's how we contribute and feel needed. But that also means that issues like dingagement at work, unemployment, low labor force participation -- the aren't just economic problems, they're existential ones, too. Without something worthwhile to do, people flounder. Of cour, you don't have to find purpo at work, but purpo gives you something to live for, some "why" that drives you forward.
