Life is the greatest teacher 生活是最伟大的老师 [ 2010-08-31 08:47 ] 我不知道是不是每个年轻人都在读这篇文章。但是我想对在读这篇文章的年轻人说：“听从生命，这是经验。每个人的经历都大体相似。” 如何渡过浮躁的青春期？每个青年都有自己的经历。本文是作者以过来人的身份，给各位年轻朋友一些诚恳的建议。 By Abubakar Jamil As I look across the horizon at the faces of the young people around me, I weep. A once proud part of the human race, the younger generation has been described as lazy, overemotional, and disrespectful. I mylf ud to have all three of the characteristics. Not when I was an adventure-eking, rambunctious toddler, but as an older high school teenager. It was at this stage that my foolish rascal tendencies were at their highest. I would constantly complain, care for my friends more than my family, and in general would just talk all the time. Then came a moment when I wondered where I would end up. Would I remain on track to becoming a doctor like my parents wanted? Am I just going to keep acting like a child for the rest of my life? This moment would rve as the spark that t in motion a process of learning life lesson, molding me into the person you're reading through your computer screen. Since then, I've learned a great many things, but the are the lessons that I wished I'd stumbled upon earlier: 女同事 1. Everyone's opinion matters only as much as you want them to. There was a time when everyone's opinion was mine as well. Whatever preferences I formerly held were dashed in the face of another's. This most likely came from a need to plea others. Remember that your opinion matters just as much as the next guy's, whether they make more money than you or are less popular than you. Everyone's opinion holds the same weight. 2. Your emotions are under your control. Drama, chaos, and emotional unrest — the were what took up most of my time as a teenager. When everyone's obsd with what's in and what's not, tempers flare; mine mostly. If I had heard someone said rotten things behind my back, I'd erupt. Go crazy. Looking back on tho tantrums now, I'm not too surprid. After all, when you have little lf control, anything is possible. The lessons here is, remain aware of how you react. 3. Arguments are pointless. Will one small quarrel among friends decide the fate of the entire univer? In my world it felt like it. I just wanted so much to be right and for them so much to be wrong. But in the end, it only resulted in me wasting my time and in the other person storming off in frustration. Is there really a point to arguing? Unless it's absolutely necessary, I've learned that it's better to hold your breath on things you can't control at all. Arguing to change someone's mind is one of them. 4. Your parents only want what's best for you. I'm not saying every parent wants what's best for you (there are outliers), but in general, parents do what they do for you in your best interest. My parents ud to make me do the dishes, cook dinner, sweep the floors, mow the lawn, take out the garbage… the list goes on and on. And at every turn, I'd whine and complain. I'd eventually end up doing it.二年级跳绳 Now, I honestly e the value in having learned tho skills. I can efficiently cook and clean up after mylf — what's not to like? And even though I despid school, I thank them for the education they helped me acquire. 5. Societal norms don't mean anything. When you define your life by what society tells you, trust me, life gets much harder to live. You're constantly on the edge thinking to yourlf, "Am I behind the times? What's the normal thing to do? Is this acceptable?" For me, this came from not having confidence in mylf to be who I am. I believe that when we are children, we already internalize this. We care not for society, but only for expressing ourlves. Then after puberty, we starting caring a bit too much. So much so that we begin to lo ourlves. Let's go back to who we ud to be. Carefree of norms and happy for simply living a life our own. 6. You aren't stuck in any situation. Whenever I’d lo a friend, get an awful grade, or disappoint my parents, I stewed in my own muck. Waiting for the bad moments to go away emed to be the only solution. Fortunately, I know now that you don’t have to be stuck in bad situations. You can go out and create better ones. It all depends on perspective; on how you e the situation. Viewing everything as a learning experience makes life more pleasurable, even during the hard times. You aren't stuck. You can move on. 7. You learn by doing. This a lesson that I unknowingly followed for quite some time. I ud to try everything at least once, just to e how it was like. But as I entered my teen years, I became wary of trying new things. Skepticism enraptured me, fear grabbed hold of me, and soon… I became gutless. I would count mylf out of the race before I was even in it. I think the lesson here is clear. You cannot change what you didn't know back then. Though, it would be nice to transfer wisdom across the time-space continuum. I wish I could tell my younger, immature lf all of this. I'd tell him to relax and everything will be fine. All you have to do is believe everything will be okay and believe in your abilities, regardless of any path you choo. Nonetheless, I'm glad to have learned the lessons the way I did. Each experience helped shape me to become a better person. I don't know if any young people are reading this, but if they are, I'd like to say this: "Listen to life and it's experiences. Everyone goes through mostly the same things." | 
