耻辱的拼音Caring for Your Introvert
by Jonathan Rauch
1、Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite prentation to a big audience, but ems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?
2、If so, do you tell this person he is "too rious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?
3、If you answered yes to the questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the habits and requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means
of brain scans, that introverts process information differently from other people (I am not making this up). If you are behind the curve on this important matter, be reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly the world.
紫色代表4、I know. My name is Jonathan, and I am an introvert.
5、Oh, for years I denied it. After all, I have good social skills. I am not moro or misanthropic. Usually. I am far from shy. I love long conversations that explore intimate thoughts or passionate interests. But at last I have lf-identified and come out to my friends and colleagues. In doing so, I have found mylf liberated from any number of damaging misconceptions and stereotypes. Now I am here to tell you what you need to know in order to respond nsitively and supportively to your own introverted family members, friends, and colleagues. Remember, someone you know, respect, and interact with every day is an introvert, and you are probably driving this person nuts. It pays to learn the warning signs.雏鸭
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6、What is introversion? In its modern n, the concept goes back to the 1920s and the psychologist Carl Jung. Today it is a mainstay of personality tests, including the widely ud Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Introverts are not necessarily shy. Shy people are anxious or frightened or lf-excoriating in social ttings; introverts generally are not. Introverts are also not misanthropic, though some of us do go along with Sartre as far as to say "Hell is other people at breakfast." Rather, introverts are people who find other people tiring.
7、Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often em bored by themlves, in both ns of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially "on," we introverts need to turn off and recharge. My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn't antisocial. It isn't a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: "I'm okay, you're okay—in small dos."
8、How many people are introverts? I performed exhaustive rearch on this question, in the form of a quick Google arch. The answer: About 25 percent. Or: Just under half. Or—my favorite—"a minority in the regular population but a majority in the gifted population."
9、Are introverts misunderstood? Wildly. That, it appears, is our lot in life. "It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert," write the education experts Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. (They are also the source of the quotation in the previous paragraph.) Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, becau extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways.
10、Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to
explain the matter to extroverts, I have never nd that any of them really understood. They listen for a moment and then go back to barking and yipping.
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11、Are introverts oppresd? I would have to say so. For one thing, extroverts are overreprented in politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Bush. Look at Bill Clinton. They em to come fully to life only around other people. To think of the few introverts who did ri to the top in politics—Calvin Coolidge, Richard Nixon—is merely to drive home the point. With the possible exception of Ronald Reagan, who fabled aloofness and privateness were probably signs of a deep introverted streak (many actors, I've read, are introverts, and many introverts, when socializing, feel like actors), introverts are not considered "naturals" in politics.Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place. As Coolidge is suppod to have said, "Don't you know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still?" (He is also suppod to have said, "If you don't say anything, you won't be called on to repeat it." The only thing a true introvert
dislikes more than talking about himlf is repeating himlf.)
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