It is not peculiar\unique to Harvard.
teen pregancy 早孕
exacerbate paradigm resilience适应能力 emulate
unfavorable circumanstance 不利环境
Some succeeded big time.非常成功
榜样give us n of direction
They did not bowl alone.独自一人
韧性toughness
学会识别可以给你提供帮助的人
dominant color主色调
生字加偏旁cross culture
experience confident拥有
driven people奋发向上的人
ruminate辗转反侧
lfpity自怨自艾
lfperception自我认识
there is nothing really wrong无可厚非
等等 to name veral
心胸the capability for flow
描写湖的诗句
no life is immune to this无法避免
identify meaning in life发现
in the back of their mind不自觉地
me generation以自我为中心
accolades
generous with
tourism school学院
美国人均每周四小时志愿时间
瑜伽降低犯罪率
outlier个例
pulish or parish不成功便成仁
极端情况对我们的幸福感影响非常小 终身教授 彩票 收入 居住地
正确的期望觉得我们的幸福感 不是一味的降低期望伊犁市 第四前提 对待人性的态度 放任还是引导
how spoilt we are受宠若惊
准许为人 需要一个空间和人
treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is.歌德treat a man as he can and should be.and he shall become as ~
经理人员的职能
people of the street路人
enter the role进入角色
eye chart视力表
prime影射
思想者THINKER RODIN
IF one advances confidently in the direction OF his dreams.and endeavors to live the life which HE has imagined，he will meet WITH success，unexpected in common hours 梭罗
lf help movement think grow rich书
this is my calling
he is employing taste运用
tunnel vision
rational light
I am glad to be back here; I wish we had a cour like this when I was an undergraduate student here. But this does not mean it fits your wish, or, it is right for you. In the next few lectures, I will show you the general ideas of the cour and so that you can decide.
I started undergraduate study at 1992, on computer science. I was fine, in academics, athletics (I play velocity squash), and social life. However, I was not happy. Halfway through sophomore, I had a mini-epiphany显现, to know why I was not happy and how to become happy, in a matter of moments, I decided to switch to philosophy and psychology.
Since then I have been happier; it should be attributed to a new field, positive psychology. I wanted to share that with others, so, I decided to be a teacher. In this cour, psychology1504, we will study the field, positive psychology; and, hopefully, more than a field, ourlves.
The first cour was in 2002, it had 8 students, and 2 dropped out later, so, only 6; a year later, it is a little larger, over 300 students; the third year, it had 850 students, the largest cour at that time in Harvard, and media began to pay attention, becau they wanted to know why it was larger than the introduction to the economics.
I was invited to interviews by media, like newspaper, radio, TV. I noticed a pattern after a dozen of interviews. At the end of interview, they said that they expect I was different. I would ask, nonchalantly, 漠不关心的 how different. They would say, more outgoing, less introvert, more extrovert, and less shy. One example is local channel, the interviewer was a joyous guy, he told me he expected me to be different, at the time, my lf-esteem is shot, but I still asked him nonchalantly, how different. He replied, “well, I am not sure, but, perhaps, taller”. I was thinking, “5.7, well, 5.6 and half, is not tall enough to teach positive
psychology”?
The media thought the reason is in the teacher. The teacher must be charismatic, cheerful, and tall. Well, I am Tal (my first name), one “l” missing.
But that is the wrong explanation. It is not the mesnger, but the message. In all 200 campus in U.S., it is one of or the largest cours. Some consulting companies are picking it up, and so are high schools, elementary schools, and the government.
csgoWhy? Becau it really works. Upon this point, the whole realm, love, flourishing, happiness, and wellbeing, are in lf-help category. There are a lot of books, and speakers. They are cheerful, outgoing, and tall. But, it is a big but, it lacks substances, over promising and under delivering, such as 5 things for happiness, 3 things for leadership, 1 cret for success, happiness, and perfect love -- over promising and under delivering.
How about academia? They are rigor, full of substances, analyzed, re-analyzed, and meta-analyzed. However, they are not accessible. Few people read or refer academic materials. We can ask a question to people, outside the room here of cour, how many
of you read the last 12 issues of Journal of Personality and Social Psychology? A lot of people do not even know what does that mean. Some rearcher estimated that on average only 7 persons read an article in professional journals, and that include that author’s mother. That is joking, but I feel hurt, as part of academic.
In this cour, we merge the two sides, the lf-help, new-age movement, and empirical studies. There are two levels, one is like every other cour, you read theories, and data, and assignments, and take exams; one is to apply the material to my life, my relationship, my community. 闪飞
Not just interesting, always both rigorous and can be applied.
Hou keeping
This is the last I give lecture at Harvard. Within two years, perhaps Harvard will offer positive psychology.
If many people have common questions, the question will be responded publicly, anonymously, unless explicitly requested otherwi.
If you have questions of emergency, just as when you have to go to bathroom, then, you
got to go, then, you got to go, you can rai you hand and ask the question, and we will take a positive psychology break, answer your question.
The reasons that we put out the power points and video are, first, I prefer you come to the class physically, becau you can n the energy, the context. However, sometimes you may miss a class, then, you can still make it by watching the video; cond, I want you to engage the material, not just memorize it, not make passive notes, but make active notes. By active notes, I mean when you feel the material is really interesting, you want to tell your mom, your roommates, then, write it down. By making active notes, you can actually memorize them better.
Start from next time, through out the cour, we will take time-in’s, it is not time-out, but like time-outs. We stop the class, look inward, take moments of silence, one minutes or two, you can stare at me or other people, or, think about what we said, or, think about the guidance questions.
This is the first time we do this. In previous cour, we did not do it. In the past two years, I did study on silence. Quiet times are important for class lecture, home, leaders in busine
ss, relationship, and children, start from preschool. You may think, I spend 40,000 dollar a year, on silence in class? I would say that it is only one minute or two for a class. Most importantly, it is the most important thing you take from this class, embracing stillness.
Two MIT professors, David Frost and Mathew Wilson, by the way, if the names I mention are not in the power point, you do not need to memorize, they are for your own edification only, did rearch on time-in. Time to look inside. They scanned the brains of rat in the maze, and after the maze. They found out that when rats in the maze, they recorded some knowledge, but a fuller impact happened after introspection. Rats got into the maze again and again learn less than rats took time aside, chew out a little bit, had a margarita. （鸡尾酒）
Experience and embrace stillness, the implications, for the whole human being, not just for tho in rat races. Replaying, reflecting, provides a general mechanism for both learning, understanding, and memorizing, retention.
The importance of taking time aside cannot be overemphasized. There is a wonderful book in teaching, by Parker Palmer, the Courage to Teach. In it, he wrote, “Words are not
the sole medium of exchange in teaching and learning. We educate with silence as well. Silence gives us a chance to reflect what have said and heard. Authentic teaching treat silence as a trustworthy matrix for the inner works student must do. Silence is the median for the deepest sort.
Silence is different in cultures. I guess you know about “Zen of Autocycles Maintenance”, Robert Emricic. He wrote a cond book, Lyla, an anthropological study on native American, compare American with European ancestry. Both culture have distinctive characteristics. Native American can sit around a fire, hang out 2 to 3 hours, without a word, look at each other, smile, have a good time, introspect, just be there. Our culture is very uncomfortable without words, sound, nois, we have to fill in all gaps. We pay a price for this lack of skills, in relationships, virtue, morality, happiness, and wellbeing in general.
Good morning everyone!
Hi, so, this mester is started, officially, today, I’m glad to e you here. Just a couple of announces and also Hi to the extension students, last time we said Hi to New Zealand, to
关于秋的文章day we are saying Hi to Ireland. In term of ctioning for the undergraduates and graduates students, here you will get email form Shaw Ankara tomorrow, and you will pet in your ction preference. We are ctioning this weekends, so it would be important that you submit your top references.
So, last time, if you remember the question that we asked, the guiding question was why positive psychology? And I mentioned there reasons why we needed it as independent field instead just being, well, lets do some studies on happiness, lets do some study on relationships as it is always been done. This reason we need positive psychology is to shape the pendulum, from the 21 to 1 ratio, that we have today for every one study on depression or anxiety we have 21 studies on… Sorry… For every one study on happiness or wellbeing we have 21 studies on depression and anxiety. We want shape that pendulum slightly and… I mentioned three reasons why we want to shape this pendulum despite the fact that there are raising levels of depression around the world, that anxiety has becoming epidemic globally. On college campus in the United States, China, Australia, UK, despite that fact, I argued that we need to shape that pendulum and
do more “positive rearch”, or in other words, rearch that focus on what works. And the reason is, the first reason that we gave, we were just finishing up is becau the questions that we ask, whether is the rearch questions that we asked, or the questions that we asked ourlves or of our partners matter. And if our only questions or primarily our questions were what is not working? What is the problem? Why are so many kids failing as a result of their circumstances? If we only ask the questions, we will miss, literally miss an important part of reality. Just like you miss the children on the bus in the exerci. Most of you did. And if we also ask the positive question then suddenly some new possibilities, new quests open up. Just like they did for the rearchers when they started to ask, no longer why do so many individual fail, but started to ask, what do some individual do and succeed. Why do some individual succeed despite the unfavorable circumstances? And then we have the story of Marvel Collins. Who exemplifies so many of the themes that we will talk about through out the cour. What Marvel Collins did was help her students shift from the passive victim; you are a victim of your circumstances, of your up bringing, neighborhood, country, whatever it is, from a passive victim to an active
agent. Yes, it’s difficult, it’s tough, it’s unfair, however it’s your responsibility. No one is coming; it’s up to you to make that difference in your lives. And she made it difference to thousands of people's lives and continues to do so. On other words, if we look at the ca of the Chicago school system where Marvel Collins was teaching, the conventional, traditional question was, if you remember, how can we keep the students in school for as long as possible. How can we keep them in school beyond the age of ten or twelve so they don’t join street gangs? So that they don’t… so they are not hurt by drugs or crimes? How can we keep them safe in school is an important question to us, however, not enough. Marvel Collins comes along, and reframes the question, and her question becomes how can we cultivate the ed of greatness in our students? And that once again made all the difference becau she saw the ed of greatness in each student; she saw the strength, the virtues in each single student. A ed, a strength, a virtue, a competence that other teachers did not e, becau they did not ask this question. Becau they asked, metaphorically speaking, how many geometric shakes on the screen? And they completely miss the children on the bus, they completely miss the ed
of greatness, and when we don’t e the ed of greatness, when we don’t water it and shade light on it, it withers and dies, which is unfortunately the fate of most human potential. Wherever we go, that is the fate of most human potential, interpersonally in relationships, in most organizations, in most universities, in most individuals. Questions make a difference. Which is why it is also important to ask the positive psychology question which is this salutogenic question: what is the source of health? What is the source of success? What is the source of wellbeing
Silence
实践活动后的最好进行内省
分清楚主次
第二课
Resilience 适应力
Optimistic
A n of meaningful Faith
Pro-social behavior
What I’m good at? Focusing on strengths 论语乡党★
Social support ★
Set goals★
A role model★
Question create reality. They create possibilities. A question begin a quest.
Put your mind on what’s you good at
Take responsibility!
No one is coming. It’s up to you to make the most out of this experience.
Lesson3
Marva Collins
Questions make a difference!
Most people lead lives of quiet desperation.
Comfortably numb, how can we go beyond~?
How can we get beyond that “quiet desperation”?
幸福并不代表没有痛苦，幸福也不会自动降临。
心理健康模型：
1. Do we focus on weakness, which is the dia model, say let’s get rid of weakness? Or do we focus on strength?
The dia model, the optimum level is the zero: let’s just be OK; let’s just not hurt.
The health model, let go beyond that, let’s get excitement, feel passion, not only the state
of relax, it’s the creative tension.
“Flow” we engage what we doing, much more than being “comfortable numb” not only ri to positive, but also can help us deal with desperation.
A failure of personal growth
Psychology is not just study of the dia, weakness, and damage, it also is the study of the strength and virtue, treatment is not just fixing what is wrong; it also builds what is right.
Build bridge:
将世界一分为二。
What the world needs is more than anything el, is practical idealists.
Your desire to do good.
Self-esteem
Meditation actually transforms our brain.
Three physical exercis, 30 minutes each time has the same effect as powerful as our most psychiatric drugs.
The foundation of being an idealists is believe change is possible.
第四课
The possibility of change!
The tip of the stem is actually about democratizing excellence.
Study the best and applying it to the rest of us.
