Unit10 Profits of Prai
Are we too quick to blame and slow to prai? It ems we are.
It was the end of my exhausting first day as waitress in a busy New York restaurant. My cap had gone awry, my apron was stained, my feet ached. The loaded trays I carried felt heavier and heavier. Weary and discouraged, I didn't em able to do anything right. As I made out a complicated check for a family with veral children who had changed their ice-cream order a dozen times, I was ready to quit.
Then the father smiled at me as he handed me my tip. "Well done," he said. "You've looked after us really well."
Suddenly my tiredness vanished. I smiled back, and later, when the manager asked me how I'd liked my first day, I said, "Fine!" Tho few words of prai had changed everything.
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梦见怀孕了Prai is like sunlight to the human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet,
while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellows the warm sunshine of prai.教研活动主持词
流产后遗症Why - when one word can bring such pleasure? A friend of mine who travels widely always tries to learn a little of the language of any place she visits. She's not much of a linguist, but she does know how to say one word - "beautiful" - in veral languages. She can u it to a mother holding her baby, or to lonely salesman fishing out pictures of his family. The ability has earned her friends all over the world.
It's strange how chary we are about praising. Perhaps it's becau few of us know how to accept compliments gracefully. Instead, we are embarrasd and shrug off the words we are really so glad to hear. Becau of this defensive reaction, direct compliments are surprisingly difficult to give. That is why some of the most valued pats on the back are tho which come to us indirectly, in a letter or pasd on by a friend. When one thinks of the speed with which spiteful remarks are conveyed, it ems a pity that there isn't more effort to relay pleasing and flattering comments.
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It's especially rewarding to give prai in areas in which effort generally goes unnoticed or unmentioned. An artist gets complimented for a glorious picture, a cook for a perfect meal. But do you ever tell you laundry manager how plead you are when the shirts are done just right? Do you ever prai your paper boy for getting the paper to you on time 365 days a year?
Prai is particularly appreciated by tho doing routine jobs: gas-station attendants, waitress - even houwives. Do you ever go into a hou and say, "What a tidy room"? Hardly anybody does. That's why houwork is considered such a dreary grind. Comment is often made about activities which are relatively easy and satisfying, like arranging flowers; but not about jobs which are hard and dirty, like scrubbing floors. Shakespeare said, "Our prais are our wages." Since so often prai is the only wage a houwife receives, surely she of all people should get her measure.
Mothers know instinctively that for children an ounce of prai is worth a pound of scolding. Still, we're not always as perceptive as we might be about applying the rule. On
e day I was criticizing my children for squabbling. "Can you never play peacefully?" I shouted. Susanna looked at me quizzically. "Of cour we can," she said. "But you don't notice us when we do."
Teachers agree about the value of prai. One teacher writes that instead of drowning students' compositions in critical red ink, the teacher will get far more constructive results by finding one or two things which have been done better than last time, and commenting favorably on them. "I believe that a student knows when he has handed in something above his usual standard," writes the teacher, "and that he waits hungrily for a brief comment in the margin to show him that the teacher is aware of it, too."腐乳的制作
手指谣儿歌 Behavioral scientists have done countless experiments to prove that any human being tends to repeat an act which has been immediately followed by a pleasant result. In one such experiment, a number of schoolchildren were divided into three groups and given arithmetic tests daily for five days. One group was consistently praid for its previous performance; another group was criticized; the third was ignored.
Not surprisingly, tho who were praid improved dramatically. Tho who were criticized improved also, bus not so much. And the scores of the children who were ignored hardly improved at all. Interestingly the brightest children were helped just as much by criticism as by prai, but the less able children reacted badly to criticism, needed prai the most. Yet the latter are the very youngsters who, in most schools, fail to get the pat on the back.
