THE WESTERN EDUCATION TRADITION
西方父母教育孩子的经典原则
Ⅰ. THE BASIC PRINCIPLE: Like every other institution, the family must have an order of authority and responsibility
像其它的机构一样，家庭也必须有一个权威和责任的架构，这个架构的秩序是：
● HUSBAND——The head of his wife, chief authority over his children.
丈夫，是家庭的头，承担对孩子教育管理的主要的责任。
● WIFE——the helper of the husband, the condary authority over her children.
妻子，妻子是丈夫的帮助者，担负对教育管理孩子第二位的责任
● CHILDREN——obedient to the parents
孩子，要顺服父母
Ⅱ. THE PRINCIPLES OF INSTRUCTION
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o we teach our children? Good teaching begins with instruction. A parent has no right to expect that the job will be done well if the parent will not invest time and effort to instruct the child well.如何教导孩子呢？好的教导是从指导开始，如果父母没有投入时间，精力引导孩子将一件事情做好，父母就没有理由期待孩子在那些事上做得令人满意。
It is also important to t rules- Teaching of any kind involves establishing rules.
设立规则同样也非常重要，任何的教导都涉及建立规则。
Another way to teach our children is by example.
再者，要以身作则教导孩子。
There are also 10 things which we should never do for our children。
以下十点，永远不要做在孩子身上。
1. Give him everything he wants. If you do he will grow up to believe that the world owes him a living.
将他想要的都给他，如果你这样去做他长大了就会认为这个世界都欠了他的，永远不会满足。
2. When he us bad words, laugh at him. This will make him think that he is cute and he will continue to find more bad things to say.
当他说一些坏话的时候，你不批评反而笑。这样会让他自认很可爱，这样会持续不断的说更多脏话。
3. Avoid the u of the word wrong. He will not develop a n of right and wrong which will get him into trouble when he is older.
（当孩子犯错的时候）不指出孩子的错误，这样孩子没办法建立正确的是非观，以致于长大后碰到一些麻烦。
4. Pick up everything that he leaves lying around - books, clothing, dishes. If you do everything for him he will never learn to be responsible for himlf.
总是帮他去捡他落下的东西－书，衣服，碟子等。如果总是帮孩子做完所有的事，孩子永远也无法学会对自己负责
5. Let him read or look at anything. He will never learn to discern what is good and moral and what is trash.
孩子毫无选择的读或者看所有的东西，孩子永远也无法学会辨别好的，有价值的或者什么是垃圾。
6. Always fight with each other in front of your child. This will teach him disrespect and that fighting and violence will help him to get his way.
总是在孩子的面前吵架，这不能教会孩子学会相与尊重，只能用打架和暴力来解决他人生道路的问题。
7. Give him all the 校园演讲稿
money he wants. Never let him earn his own. This way he will never learn the value of working hard or the rewards that hard work brings.
只要想要钱就尽可能满足，从不让他学会自己去挣。这种方式不能够让孩子认识到努力工作的价值或者体会努力工作将带来的奖赏。
8. Give him all food, toys, or electronics that he wants. If you do then he will be angry and frustrated when he is older and can’t afford to buy everything he es.
总是给他想要的玩具，食物或电子产品。如果是样，当孩子长大后会总是生气，沮丧，因为他无法买得起他看到的白羊男和金牛女
所有东西。
9. Take his side against teachers, neighbors, or anyone who says that he has done something wrong (Unless you absolutely know that he is innocent). He will grow up thinking that everyone is against him.
总是站在孩子这一边，对指出他错误的老师，邻居或其它任何人都与以指责（除非你完全知道他是清白无辜的）.将来他长大了，他会认为所有的人都敌视他。
10. Never give him any spiritual teaching. Don’t let him know that there is a creator God who loves him, but who he is accountable to obey. This way he will never arch for the hope and peace that a relationship with God can bring.
从不给他任何属灵的教育，不让他知道有一位创造天地万物的上帝爱他，他应该有责任去顺服这样一位神。否则他永远也不会寻求和上帝建立关系，好带给他平安和希望。
Ⅲ. THE PRINCIPLES OF DECIPLESHIP
第二点是管教孩子
Both parents and children need to realize that discipline teaches obedience.
父母和孩子应该认识到管教能教导孩子学会顺服。
Discipline should begin when the child is only an infant. Even young children soon discover that crying will get attention and can be ud to manipulate his parents. Don’t be afraid to be the boss. Children need to know there is someone stronger and wir in the f
amily. When the situation demands it, you must say NO. Your child may argue with you, but deep inside he will love you for your wisdom, strength and good judgment in keeping him safe from his own lack of experience. A child who has everything done for him, everything given him, and nothing required of him, is a child lacking the ability to become wi. He is just spoiled. A child with no out side controls will never learn inside control.
当孩子还是一个婴孩的时候就应有管教。即使是很小的孩子很快就发现哭闹能引起大人的注意，并利用这种法子来操控父母。不要害怕当一个领导。要让孩子们明白家里有一个更强壮、更智慧的人。如果有必要，你必须说“不”。你的孩子也许会同你争论，但内心深处会爱你，因你的智慧，力量和良好的决断使他远离危险，他自己缺乏足够的经验来处理这些事情。给孩子包办一切，给他所有想要的，对他没有任何的要求，孩子会变得没有智慧（愚笨）。他只是被宠坏了。对孩子没有外在的控制，他就永远学不会自控。（内控）
The Proverb tells us “The孕妇可以蒸桑拿吗
rod of correction gives wisdom, but a child left to himlf brings shame to his mother. ”
箴言说：杖打和责备能加增智慧，放纵的儿子使母亲羞愧。
You are the authority in your child’s life. If a child is disobedient it may be becau he es his mother opposing or ignoring his father and not submitting to his authority over her as the head of the family. Women, we need to teach our children how to submit to authority as we honor our husbands.
你拥有引导孩子生活的权柄，如果一个孩子很不顺服（或做叛逆），或许是看到妈妈总是反对他的父亲或者很忽视父亲作为一家之主的权威。所以妇女们，尊重丈夫在家庭的权威，这个时候就也是在教导孩子学习顺服。
In the family, the primary responsibility for disciplining the child rests with the father. When he is in the hou he has the responsibility to discipline the children. The wife needs to support this. She disciplines the children in the minor matters or if he is away, becau she has delegated authority from him. In the little matters the mother must act immediately. For more important things she needs to wait for the father.
