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英语文摘过分在意别人的看法你中枪了么？
If you’re even a half-way decent human being, you undoubtedly care what others think about you. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to project a good lf-image to the world, but when you become preoccupied with what others think of you, you distort your own image of yourlf. The only person who should be able to define yourlf is you. If you find yourlf in any of the following situations, you should think about changing up your mindt before you stop living for yourlf, and end up living for everyone el.
杨利伟介绍1. You evaluate yourlf through other people’s eyes
通过别人评判自己。
At the end of a hard day’s work, you should be able to reflect on your efforts, accomplishments, and shortcomings. However, you should only think about the things in relation to how you performed the previous day. Don’t worry about how others may have judged you throughout the day. For one thing, they most likely didn’t take any of their time t
o evaluate you. Secondly, doing so will make you paranoid that people are always judging you, and your performance will ultimately suffer.
2. You give others’ behavior too much meaning
过分在意他人的言语。
If you’re socially anxious, you probably spend a lot of time wondering “What did he mean when he gave that compliment?” or “Was he being sarcastic when he said I did a good job back there?” That’s fairly natural, and it takes work to get over it. However, it must be done if you want to truly feel success. Worrying about what others may or may not have been thinking simply wastes time that could have been spent improving your life in some way.
3. You let feedback stop you
碰碰车游戏止步于批评。
李旭昊
约客古诗I struggled with this for a while, especially when I started writing for the vast Internet audience. Don’t let criticism stop you from trying. People would only offer feedback if they saw talent in you that they knew could be unleashed with some tweaks. Rather than shutting down when someone offers criticism of your work, listen to what they have to say. Keep their words in mind the next time you start a task, and focus on that specific area in order to improve your overall performance.
4. You’re preoccupied with always saying the right things
总是执着于说正确的事
Nobody wants to appear socially awkward. Ironically, the people who are most preoccupied with not looking silly in their interactions are the ones who are obsd with trying not to look silly. Everyone’s said “You too!” to their waiter when he said “Enjoy your meal!” and realized how ridiculous they sounded afterwards. Don’t let that kind of gaffe stick with you. Do you really think the waiter is going to the back room and telling his colleagues “Ha! The guy at table 2 said 'You too’ when I told him to enjoy his meal! What
做我的朋友吧a lor!” Seriously, nobody has time for that. And you’re not the first person to do it. Just let your interactions with others flow, and you won’t be so intimidated by everyday interactions.
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5. You try to plea everyone
露营必备试图迎合每个人
Tho who care too much about what others think will spend too much time trying to plea everyone. The problem with this is when you do something for one person, and then another, and another, you’ll start a chain of events in which you’re looking out for everyone el’s well-being at the expen of your own health. I’m not saying you should be completely lfish throughout your life, but you need to know when you’re burning yourlf out becau you’ve spent too much time worrying about other people.
6. You don’t put yourlf first
不把自己放在第一位
This goes along with the last point. If you’re constantly trying to plea everyone, you won’t spend enough time on yourlf. When others thank you for your help, you often say it was “no big deal,” even if it was exhausting work that t you back on completing your own obligations. When you don’t put yourlf first, you’re subconsciously telling yourlf that everyone el matters more than you do. That’s simply not true. Put other people’s needs to the side, and enjoy some “me” time for once.
