4 Consider the varieties of friendship:
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职称英语成绩查询时间5 1. Convenience friends. The are women with whom, if our paths weren't crossing all the time, we'd have no particular reason to be friends: a next-door neighbor, a woman in our car pool, the mother of one of our children's clost friends, or maybe some mommy with whom we rve juice and cookies each week at the Glenwood Co-op Nurry.
6 Convenience friends are convenient indeed. They'll lend us their cups and silverware for a party. They'll drive our kids to soccer when we're sick. They'll take us to pick up our car when we need a lift to the garage. They'll even take our cats when go on vacation. As we will for them.
叶诗文兴奋剂铁证7 But we don't, with convenience friends, ever come too clo or tell too much; we maintain our public face and emotional distance. "Which means," says Elaine, "that I'll talk about being overweight but not about being depresd. Which means I'll admit being mad but not blind with rage. Which means I might say that we're pinched this month but
never that I'm worried sick over money."
8 But which doesn't mean that there isn't sufficient value to be found in the friendships of mutual aid, in convenience friends.
9 2. Special-interest friends. The friendships aren't intimate and they needn't involve kids or silverware or cats. Their value lies in some interest jointly shared. And so we may have an office friend or a yoga friend or a tennis friend or a friend form the Women's Democratic Club.
10 "I've got one woman friend," says Joyce, "who likes, as I do, to take psychology cours. Which makes it nice for me--and nice for her. It's fun to go with someone you know and it's fun to discuss what you’ve learned, driving back form the class." And for the most part, she says, that's all they discuss.
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11 "I'd say that what we’re doing is doing together, not being together," Suzanne says of her Tuesday-doubles friends. "It's mainly a tennis relationship, but we play together well. And I guess we all need to have a couple of playmates."
12 I agree.
13 My playmate is a shopping friend, a woman of marvelous taste, a woman who knows exactly where to buy what, and furthermore is a woman who always knows beyond a doubt what one ought to be buying. I don't have the time to keep up with what's new in eyeshadow, hemlines, and shoes and whether the smock look is in or finished already. But since (oh, shame!) I care a lot about eyeshadows, hemlines, and shoes, and since I don't want to wear smocks if the smock look is finished, I'm very glad to have a shopping friend.
14 3. Historical friends. We all have a friend who knew aybe way back in
Miss Meltzer's cond grade, when our family lived in that tree-room flat in Brooklyn, when our dad was out of work for ven months, when our brother Allie got in that fight where they had to call the police, when our sister married the endodontist from Yonkers, and when, the morning after we lost our virginity, she was the first, the only, friend we told.
推特英文网15 The years have gone by and we've gone parate ways and we've little in common now, but we're still an intimate part of each other's past. And so whenever we go to Detroit we always go to visit this friend of our girlhood. Who knows how we looked before our teeth re straightened. Who knows how we talked before our voice got unBrooklyned. Who knows what we ate before we learned about artichokes. And who, by her prence, put us in touch with an earlier part of ourlf, a part of ourlf it's important never to lo.
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16 "What this friend means to me and what I mean to her,” says Grace, "is having a sist
er without sibling rivalry. We know the texture of each other's lives. She remembers my grandmother's cabbage soup. I remember the way her uncle played the piano. There's simply no other friend who remembers tho things."
