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We're going to share a lot of crets today, you and I, and in doing so, I hope that we can lift some of the shame many of us feel about x.
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How many here have ever been catcalled by a stranger? Lots of women. For me, the time I remember best is when that stranger was a student of mine. He came up to me after class that night and his words confirmed what I already knew:
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"I am so sorry, professor. If I had known it was you, I would never have said tho things."
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I wasn't a person to him until I was his professor. This concept, called objectification, is the foundation of xism, and we e it reinforced through every aspect of our lives. We e it in the government that refus to punish men for raping women. We e it in advertiments. How many of you have en an advertiment that us a woman's breast to ll and entirely unrelated product? Or movie after movie after movie that portrays women as only love interests? The examples might em inconquential and harmless, but they're insidious, slowly building into a culture that refus to e women as people. We e this in the school that nds home a 10-year-old girl becau her clothes were a distraction to boys trying to learn, or the government that refus to punish men for raping women over and over, or the woman who is killed becau she asked a man to stop grinding on her on the dance floor.
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Media plays a large role in perpetuating the objectification of women. Let's consider the classic romantic comedy. We're typically introduced to two kinds of women in the movi技术支持英语
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On the rare occasion that I share with a new acquaintance that I study x, if they don't end the conversation right then, they're usually pretty intrigued.
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"Oh. Tell me more."
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So I do.
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"I'm really interested in studying the xual behaviors of pregnant and postpartum couples." At this point I get a different kind of respon.
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"Oh. Huh. Do pregnant people even have x? Have you thought about studying xual desire or orgasms? That would be interesting, and xy."
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Tell me. What are the first words that come to mind when you picture a pregnant woman? I asked this question in a survey of over 500 adults, and most responded with "belly" or "round" and "cute." This didn't surpri me too much. What el do we label as cute? Babies. Puppies. Kittens. The elderly. Right?
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When we label an adult as cute, though, we take away a lot of their intelligence, their complexity. We reduce them to childlike qualities. I also asked heteroxual men to imagine a woman that they're partnered with is pregnant, and then asked women to imagine that they are pregnant, and then tell me the first words that come to mind when they imagine having x. Most of the respons were negative. "Gross." "Awkward." "Not xy." "Odd." "Uncomfortable." "How?"
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(Laughter)
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"Not worth the trouble." "Not worth the risk."
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That last one really stuck with me. We might think that becau we divorce pregnant women and moms from xuality, we are removing the constraints of xual objectification. They experience less xism. Right? Not exactly. What happens instead is a different kind of objectification. In my efforts to explain this to others, one conversation led to the Venus of Willendorf, a Paleolithic figurine scholars assumed was a goddess of love and beauty, hence the name Venus. This theory was later revid, though, when scholars noted the sculptor's obvious focus on the figurine's reproductive features: large breasts, considered ideal for nursing; a round, possibly pregnant belly; the remnants of re
d dye, alluding to menstruation or birth. They also assumed that she was meant to be held or placed lying down becau her tiny feet don't allow her to be freestanding. She also had no face. For this reason, it was assumed that she was a reprentation of fertility and not a portrait of a person. She was an object. In the history of her interpretation, she went from object of ideal beauty and love to object of reproduction.
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I think this transition speaks more about the scholars who have interpreted her purpo than the actual purpo of the figurine herlf. When a woman becomes pregnant, she leaves the realm of men's xual desire and slides into her reproductive and child-rearing role. In doing so, she also becomes the property of the community, considered very important but only becau she's pregnant. Right? I've taken to calling this the Willendorf effect, and once again we e it reinforced in many aspects of her life.
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Has anyone here ever been visibly pregnant? tape
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Yeah. Lots of you, right? So how many of you ever had a stranger touch your belly during pregnancy, maybe without even asking your permission first? Or told what you can and cannot eat by somebody who is not your doctor, your medical care provider? Or asked private questions about your birth plan? And then told why tho choices are all wrong? Yeah, me too. Or had a rver refu to bring you a glass of wine? This one might give you pau, I know, but stay with me. This is a huge cret. It is actually safe to drink in moderation during pregnancy. Many of us don't know this becau doctors don't trust pregnant women with this cret --
