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however, tends to be nerve-wracking, what with all the
boring, annoying, and woefully offensive questions from Chine relatives.
From “Can you understand the English words on TV?” to “How much did your parents pay for your tuition?”, every
mundane facet of your life ems to interest
How to fight back against annoying family members
temple过年回家，该如何从容应对亲戚的“拷问”？
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them. They care about you, but they lecture you and judge you. For “leftover” people, the question “Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend?” is enough to make you spit.
You might think this is an easy question to answer, but—oh you sweet, innocent simpleton—whether your answer is “yes” or “no”, follow-up questions await, ready to pounce at the first sign of weakness.
Let’s start with “yes”. If you admit you are in a relationship, the focus will immediately be transferred to your partner.
Relative: Good for you! How old is he?T3i h2o le ! T` du4 d3 ni1nj#?
太好了！他多大年纪？
You: Same as me.H9 w6 y!y3ng d3.
和我一样大。
R: Oh, that’s good. How much does he earn every month?
N3 h0nh2o a. T` y! g- yu- zh-ng du4shao qi1n?
那很好啊。他一个月挣多少钱？
Y: Uh…
È……
呃……
R: If there is not an economic problem, you should consider getting married.J~ngj# m9i w-nt! dehu3, n@men y~ngg`i k2ol_ ji9h$n le.
经济没问题的话，你们应该考虑结婚了。
Y: We haven’t planned that.W6men h1i m9i j#hu3.
我们还没计划。
R: Then you should. Think about your age!G`i j#hu3 le. Xi2ngxi2ng n@ d4u du4 d3 le !
该计划了。想想你都多大了！Let’s face it. Relatives have no concept of “privacy”; anything from age to salary is asked about with the
polite manners and consideration of a rampaging hippo. And, what’s more, regardless of your answers to their barrage of questions the answer is always, “You should get married,” which, as advice goes, is not helpful. So maybe you decide that you’re going to avoid all that, and just
answer “no” to the question. Oh dear. Be aware that now, you’re going to hear “you should”. A lot.
R: You are still single? Oh, you should e someone.
N@ h1i d`nsh8n? N@ y~ngg`i zh2o n1np9ngy6u le.
你还单身？你应该找男朋友了。
Y: Actually, I am not that desperate.Q!sh! w6 h1i b& j!.
其实我还不急。
R: You should be. If you don’t find a boyfriend now, the good boys will be picked up by others first.
G`i j! le. N@ xi3nz3i b& zh2o, h2on1nh1ir d4u b-i bi9r9n ti`o z6u le !
该急了。你现在不找，好男孩儿都被别人挑走了！
Y: I will be able to find my Mr. Right in the future.
W6 ji`ngl1i hu# zh2od3o h9sh# de du#xi3ng.
我将来会找到合适的对象。
R: You should take action now. What are your standards for a boyfriend? Let me fix you up.
N@ xi3nz3i ji&g`i x!ngd7ng le. N@ xi2ng zh2o sh9nme y3ngr de? W6 b`ng n@ ji-sh3o ba.
你现在就该行动了。你想找什么样儿的？我帮你介绍吧。
If you don’t want a blind date in the very near future, end the
conversation. Or, maybe ask the nosy relative a question in the same vein, like when they are going to die and that they should really think about it becau they need to “think about their age”.
What, you think you’re exempt just becau you’re married? Ha! No,
now they expect you to impregnate or be impregnated by someone—a subject everyone is happy to discuss with their family members.
Again, the advice they give is the same. But, if you’ve had a shotgun wedding and planned nine months in advance, you’re still going to face questions about educational issues from kindergarten to university.
Since it is clear that we are all targets regardless of our life choices, it might be time to work on some strategy. People love dishing out advice much more than taking it. You should be aware that they won’t end their lectures unless they feel that you have accepted all their opinions. If you want the easy way out, you’re just going to have to capitulate. Talking back is definitely not a good idea, becau it would incur more nagging. You need a bag of tricks. The most effective is using your parents as a firewall. They can bully you, but it would be rude to bully your parents (yet).
R: Are you planning to have a baby this year?
N@ d2su3n j~nni1n y3o h1izi ma?
你打算今年要孩子吗？
Y: Yeah, I hope to. But my mom suggested we consider the baby’s zodiac sign.
SINCE IT IS CLEAR THAT WE ARE ALL TARGETS REGARDLESS OF OUR LIFE CHOICES, IT MIGHT BE TIME TO WORK ON SOME STRATEGY
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Sh# de, w6 xi2ng y3o. D3nsh# w6 m` ji3ny# w6men k2ol_ y!xi3 h1izi de sh^xiang.
是的，我想要。但是我妈建议我们考虑一下孩子的属相。
Of cour, details of marriage and babies are far from enough to sate their curiosity. Your career, income, and lifestyle will all be topics. They will ize every opportunity to show sympathy and teach you a life lesson—even and especially if their life has been rubbish. In this situation, you can consider switching the conversation to another direction or a deeper level.
R: Aren’t the housing prices in Beijing very expensive?
秘密花园16B0ij~ng de f1ngz$ b%sh# h0n gu# ma ?
question北京的房租不是很贵吗？
Y: Yeah, they are.
Sh# t@ng gu# de.
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是挺贵的。
R: Then why do you have to live there? Come back home and get married! Life would be much easier!
N3 n@ w-i sh9nme h1i li% z3i n3r? Hu!ji` ji9h$n ba! Ji`l@ r#zi h2gu7 du4 le!
那你为什么还留在那儿？回家结婚吧！家里日子好过多了！
Y: I remember a report that said our hometown is experiencing an aging population and a labor shortage. What do you think of this?
W6 j#de y6u b3od3o shu4 z1nmen ji`xi`ng
r9nk6u l2ol!nghu3 h9 l1od7ngl# du2nqu8 w-nt!
h0n y1nzh7ng. Zh8xi8 w-nt! n@ z0nme k3n ?
我记得有报道说咱们家乡人口老龄化和劳动力短缺问题很严重。这些问题你怎么看？
To some extent, attack is the best defen. Sometimes the best way to get rid of an annoying relative is being one first, just like the old Chine saying: “以子之矛，攻子之盾(y@ z@ zh~ m1o, g4
ng z@ zh~ d&n, t your own spear against your own shield). On social media, the news of the two-child policy has been made into a dialogue
as an effective offensive weapon.
Y: Aunt, will you have a cond child?
y!, n@ d2su3n y3o -rt`i ma ?
阿姨，你打算要二胎吗？
R: No, I don’t think so.
马达加斯加2下载B& d2su3n.
不打算。
Y: Why not? Auntie Wang next door is
already pregnant!
W-i sh9nme? G9b# W1ng `y! d4u y@j~ng hu1iy&n le!ikp
为什么？隔壁王阿姨都已经怀孕
了！
R: That’s not an easy decision.
Zh- b&n9ng q~ngy# ju9d#ng.
这不能轻易决定。
Y: But if you don’t have the cond child,
your life is incomplete!
有情人终成眷属英文acca培训D3nsh# r%gu5 b& sh8ng -rt`i, n@ de r9nsh8ng sh#
b& w1nzh0ng de!
但是如果不生二胎，你的人生是不
完整的！
Too aggressive? Maybe. But all’s
fair in Spring Festival arguments.
Maybe you can keep the conversation
under control without resorting to
rudeness. Remember: your objective
is to make your relative the subject of
conversation.
R: Do you have a girlfriend now?
N@ y6u n)p9ngy6u le ma?
你有女朋友了吗？
Y: Not yet, uncle. But I heard that you are
preparing a wedding hou for my cousin.
When will he get married?
H1i m9iy6u, sh$shu. D3nsh# w6 t~ngshu4
n@men z3i g0i bi2og8 zh^nb-i h$nf1ng le.
T` sh9nme sh!hou ji9h$n?
还没有，叔叔。但是我听说你们
e bay
在给表哥准备婚房了。他什么时
候结婚？
R: It has not been decided yet.
H1i m9i d#ng xi3l1i ne.
还没定下来呢。
Y: After my cousin has a baby, will you
help rai it?
N3 bi2og8 y6u le h2izi zh~h7u, n@men hu#
b`ngm1ng d3i ma?
那表哥有了孩子之后，你们会帮忙
带吗？
R: We haven’t discusd that yet.
W6men h1i m9i sh`ngliang gu7.
我们还没商量过。
Y: Oh, by the way, I hear that there might
be a new policy postponing the retirement
age. When will you retire from work?
Du# le, w6 t~ngshu4 k0n9ng y3o y6u tu~ch! tu#xi$
de zh-ngc- le, n!n sh9nme sh!hou tu#xi$ ?
对了，我听说可能要有推迟退休的
政策了，您什么时候退休？
Ah, the sweet taste of one’s own
medicine. Yes, you can find out
hundreds of solutions to resist the
annoying questions, but honestly,
in most cas, people’s intentions
wouldare good. They are just trying to be
nice and want to shorten emotional
distances. Perhaps you can try to
communicate sincerely, appreciate
their care, and let them know that you
care about them too. After all, family
reunions are a happy occasion.
R: How are you doing the days? Do you
have a boyfriend now?
Zh- du3n sh!ji`n gu7 de z0nmey3ng? Y6u
n1np9ngy6u le ma?
这段时间过得怎么样？有男朋友了
吗？
Y: No, I am still single, but everything is
good. What about you? Are you all in good
health? I miss you guys so much!
M9iy6u, w6 h1i d`nsh8n. W6 y!qi- d4u h2o,
n@men ne? Sh8nt@ d4u h2o ma ? W6 t3i xi2ngni3n
n@men le!
没有，我还单身。我一切都好，你们
呢？身体都好吗？我太想念你们了！
See? It’s that easy. Well, maybe not,
but give it a try.
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