what good is love

WhatisTheDifferencebetweenLikeandLove?

InTheBibleitreads1John2:9-11WearetoLoveoneanother,cool,butIhave

hearditsaidonedoesnothaveto"Like"someonejust"Love"someone,sowhatis

thedifferencebetweenLikeandLove?Canonereallybeapersonwithouttheother?

saskhimwhetherhelikemeornot,buthisanswermust

be“Iloveyou”,thenIwouldsay“Inyouropinion,whatisthedifferencebetween

likeandlove?”Hedoesn’longtimehefindssomethingandshowsit

tome,thisismyfeeling.

Ioftenmakeantinomywithhim,buthejustbearmeandthinkaboutwhetherhe

didsomethingwrong,ifitis,smebehappyall

nheisangry

withme,Iwilljustfeeltheskyisfallingdownandthinkeverythingnegative.I

nttoleave

osaynothing,maybehim

likememorethanIlikehim,’tknow.

MaybeLike=tofindpleasantorpleasing;Love=tofindintenlypleasing;(3)

Tolikeenthusiastically;tohaveadeepfeelingofaffection.

Like,rlove,isworth.

Likeislike,rloveislove,isverycomplex.

Likeyou,rloveyou,youmustbeverylikeyou.

Likingaperson,rlovingaperson,

togetherofthetime,noteasilyfrustrated.

Likingaperson,rlovingaperson,you

oftentogetherlookingforwardtotomorrow.

Likingaperson,rlovingaperson,you

willoftentears.

Likingaperson,whenyoulongtimenoe,r

lovingaperson,whenyoulongtimenoe,youwillthinkofhimeveryday.

Likingaperson,whenyouthinkofhim,rlovingaperson,

whenyouthinkofhim,youwilltowardtheskystunned.

Likingaperson,youthink,hehavechildren,rloving

aperson,willoneday,youaresuddenlycurious:whatwoulditbelikeinthefutureof

ourchildren.

rlovingapersonhopethathewill

bemorehappy.

Apersonyoulike,rlovingaperson,youhopeisforever.

Likingaperson,rlovingaperson,ifitisofsame

xlove,thatisgay.

Likingaperson,rlovingaperson,his

shortcomingsistolerated.

Thedifferencebetweenloveandlikeisinfrontofthepersonyoulove,yourheart

beatsfaster,butinfrontofthepersonyoulike,yougethappy.

Infrontofthepersonyoulove,winteremslikespring,butinfrontoftheperson

youlike,winterisjustbeautifulwinter.

Ifyoulookintotheeyesoftheoneyoulove,youblush,butifyoulookintotheeyes

ofthepersonyoulike,yousmile.

Infrontofthepersonyoulove,youcan’tsayeverythingonyourmind,butinfrontof

thepersonyoulike,youcan.

Infrontofthepersonyoulove,youtendtogetshy,butinfrontofthepersonyoulike,

youcanshowyourownlf.

Youcan’tlookstraightintotheeyesoftheoneyoulove,butyoucanalwayssmile

intotheeyesoftheoneyoulike.

Whentheoneyouloveiscrying,youcrywithhim,butwhentheoneyoulikeis

crying,youendupcomforting.(1)

Thefeelingoflovestartsfromtheeye,andthefeelingoflikestartsfromtheears.

Soifyoustoplikingapersonyouudtolike,allyouneedtodoiscoveryourears.

Butifyoutrytocloyoureyes,loveturnsintoateardropandremainsinyourheart

foreverafter.

BeforeIgethim,Ialways

gettogetherwithmyfemalefriendspreviouslyandIstaywithmyboyfriendallthe

timenow,nmakesmeupt,butIderve

kesyouoneyeartolostyourheartto

someone,whereasitwilltaketherestofyourlifetoforgethim.

Whatislove?Maybeloveisgod.

98%ntradictionsproducebetween

lovers,

whenyouhavelove,eyouhaveloved,

don’rlikeislfish,youwillignorethe

feelingsofeachother.

AccordingtotheBible:GodisLove-

John4:8HewhodoesnotlovedoesnotknowGod,forGodislove.

Loveisdefinedintermsofwhoweareandwhatwedoandnotintermsdependent

uponanotherperson;forinstance,ethedefinitionofLovein1stCorinthians13.

Corinthians13:4Loveispatientandkind;lovedoesnotenvyorboast;itisnot

notinsistonitsownway;itisnotirritableorrentful;6it

doesnotrejoiceatwrongdoing,butrejoiceswiththetruth.7Lovebearsallthings,

believesallthings,hopesallthings,andenduresallthings.

Lovebeingpatientforinstancemeansweare(ifweareloving)patiencenotonly

withourbestfriendordearspoubutevenwithourenemyorthepersonwhodrives

badlyinfrontofus.

Noticetoolovedoesnotrejoiceinwrongdoing...todayloveisoftendefinedin

termsofacceptingorallowingeverythinganotherpersondoes,ifyoudon'tyouare

oftencalled"ahater"butbiblicallovecanloveapersonwithoutlikingeverythingthat

persondoes,forinstance:

Ifyouloveapersonwhoisdrunkwhomighttaketheirkeysaway,alsoyoudonot

liketheirdrunkenness,nowtheymaynotlikethefactyouaretakingtheirkeysaway

butthelovingthingtodoisnotalwayswhattheotherpersoninabadstatewould

thinkloving.

WearecalledbyJesustoLOVEourenemiesthoughwearenotcalledtolikethem

-Matthew5:44ButIsaytoyou,Loveyourenemiesandprayforthowhopercute

you,akeshissun

youlovethowholoveyou,whatrewarddoyouhave?Donoteventhetax

collectorsdothesame?Andifyougreetonlyyourbrothers,whatmoreareyou

doingthanothers?DonoteventheGentilesdothesame?Youthereforemustbe

perfect;asyou’reheavenlyFatherisperfect.

yourfriends,thowholoveyou

backiasy,everyonedoesit,,Jesus

callsustoahigherLove!

Againlovingyourenemiesdoesnotmeanlikingwhattheydo.

JesusshowedgreatlovewhenHediedforusonthecross,loveislfsacrificial-

John15:12"Thisismycommandment,thatyouloveoneanotherasIhavelovedyou.

13Greaterlovehasnoonethanthis,thatsomeonelaysdownhislifeforhisfriends.

Thisloveisnotaboutwhatyougetbutwhatyougive---Jesusshoweduslove

evenwhenwewerenotlovely-

ESVRomans5:6forwhilewewerestillweak,attherighttimeChristdiedforthe

ungodly.7Foronewillscarcelydieforarighteousperson-thoughperhapsforagood

persononewoulddareeventodie-8butGodshowshisloveforusinthatwhilewe

werestillsinners,Christdiedforus.

TherearetwotypesofloveinScripture:

Phileo-familylove,lovebecauofwhosomeoneis

Agape-lovethatwearetohaveinus,theLoveGodhasforuswhenwearesinners,

thelovewearetohaveforourenemies,thelovewehaveinspiteofwhatsomeoneis

ordoes

PhileoisthekindoflovewehaveforGod,becauEVERYTHINGaboutHimis

lovely,beautiful!

AgapeisthekindofloveGodhasforsinners,itisloveinspiteoftheirsin.

,evenphileoisstrongerthanjustliking.

impliesarelationship,aunion,afriendship;Iamnotafriend

toicecream.

ESVJohn21:15Whentheyhadfinishedbreakfast,JesussaidtoSimonPeter,

"Simon,sonofJohn,doyoulovememorethanthe?"Hesaidtohim,"Yes,Lord;

youknowthatIloveyou."Hesaidtohim,"Feedmylambs."16Hesaidtohima

condtime,"Simon,sonofJohn,doyouloveme?"Hesaidtohim,"Yes,Lord;you

knowthatIloveyou."Hesaidtohim,"Tendmysheep."17Hesaidtohimthethird

time,"Simon,sonofJohn,doyouloveme?"Peterwasgrievedbecauhesaidto

himthethirdtime,"Doyouloveme?"andhesaidtohim,"Lord,youknow

everything;youknowthatIloveyou."Jesussaidtohim,"Feedmysheep.

IntheabovepassageeverytimeJesusaskedPeter,doyouloveme?Heusthe

erPeterrespondssaying"...Iloveyou"heustheword

phileo.

er

doesnotboldlysaytoJesus,IloveyouwithagapeloveinspiteoflovemeaningIwill

dieforyou,,humbledbecauofHisownfailureand

realizingthegreatnessofChristhesays,Iloveyou(Phileo)becauof

WHOMYOUareJESUS!WhenweloveGodweloveHimbecauofWHOHeis

notinspiteofWhoHeis.(Bible)

"Like"isanexpressionofmyopinion."Love"isinspiteofmyopinion.

AtellingillustrationistheconversationJesushaswithPeterbeginninginJohn

21:15,"Sowhentheyhaddined,JesussaystoSimonPeter,Simon,sonofJonas,love

thoumemorethanthe?Hesaysuntohim,Yea,Lord;thouknowthatIlovethee.

Hesaysuntohim,Feedmylambs."JesusasksPeterthethreetimes,butinthefirst

twoquestions,JesusasksPeterwhetherhe"agapao"Him,loveshimlikeGodloves

errepliesthathemerely"phileo"JesuslikesHimorlovesHimlikea

s'thirdquestioniswhetherPeter"phileo"Him,and,"Peter

wasgrievedbecauhesaiduntohimthethirdtime,Lovestthoume?Andhesaid

untohim,Lord,thouknowallthings;thouknowthatIlovethee"(John21:17b).After

havingdeniedHisSavior,Peterwasatleastbeinghonestinsayingthatthebesthe

couldmanage(onagoodday)was"phileo"orlikingJesus,

thatchanged,rwardafewdecades

andchurchhistorysaysthatPeterwastoldthatNerowasgunningforhimsohetook

ayout,PetersawJesus

sandasksJesuswhereHe'sgoing,andJesustellshim,andthen

PeterturnsrightaroundandfollowsJesusbackintothecityeventhothat'swhereHis

"phileo"hadbecome"agapeo."(2)

Are"love"and"like"synonym?Ifyouloveaflower,you'ikea

flower,you'llpickit.

Whatabout"like"and"hate",aretheyantonyms?Ifyoulikeaflower,youpickit.

Ifyouhateafloweryoupickit.

Loveisabsolute,unwavering,theabsoluteacceptance

ofhowsomeoneisrightnow,today,’sanunconditional,

lifetimecommitment—notfortoday,erwhatsomeonedoesor

whatlifethrowsatyou,notwaituntilsomethingbettercomes

alongoruntilyouchangeyourmindorlearnsomethingnewanddisappointing.

Likeiverythingel…rightuptothatpoint—evenifyoulikesomeonealot.

Likemayincluderespect,desire,lust,evenadoration,butyoucan'tquitegetto

absoluteacceptance,andyoudamnsurecan'

is“I’mstillgettingtoknowyou,yourcharacterandyourvalues,andI’mtryingto

acceptthemintotalityforever.”

Someyearslater,youdon’tregretyoulovedhim,butyouwillremoryouliked

him.

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(3)(TheAmericanHeritageDictionary)