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Man:Goodmorning!

Woman:Morning!

Man:Bytheway,Ijustwantedtosaywelldoneonclinchingthatdeal!

Woman:Oh,’ttoodifficult.

Man:You’rebeingmodest!Youdidreallywell.

Woman:Thankyou.

Man:You’reagreatmanager,youknow.

Woman:Doyouthinkso?

Man:Ohyeah.

Woman:Iappreciatethat.

(pau)

Man:Haveyoucutyourhair?

Woman:Ohyes,fornoticing!

Man:Wheredidyougetitdone?

Woman:Oh,justthatplaceonthehighstreet.

Man:Theydidagreatjobanditlooksgreatwiththeoutfit.

Woman:Doyouthinkso?

Man:…fashionable.

Woman:Oh,it’sjustanoldthing.

Man:Well,you’vegotagreatnofstyle.

Woman:Thankyou,youtoo.

Man:Thankyou.

(pau)

Man:Niceperfume,Dream?

Woman:Well,yesitis,actually.

Man:Youwearitwell.

Woman:I’mflattered.

Man:Mypleasure.

Woman:Listen,doyouwantsomething?

Man:No.I’mjustbeingpolite,youknow.

Woman:Hmmm.

Glossary

pay(someone)acompliment(exp.)tosaysomething(tosomeone)toexpressapprovalor

admirationforthingsthatsomeonedoes.

clinch(v.):win(informal)

modest(adj.):notwillingtotalktoomuchaboutone’sachievementsandabilities

Iappreciatethat(exp.):udtothanksomeoneortoshowthatyouaregrateful

highstreet(n.):(BritishEnglish)astreetwherethemostimportantbusinessandshopsina

townarelocated

outfit(n.):atofclothes

Iamflattered(exp.):udtoexpressthatyouareverypleadafterreceivingacompliment

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