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TED英语演讲《提升⾃信的技巧》有多少⼈⼀遇到挫折就想着放弃

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多少⼈⼀碰到失败就放弃了？多少⼈⼀遇到困难就退缩了？不管机遇如何，困难多⼤，哪怕⾝处逆境，相信⾃⼰可以做

到，这就是⾃信。如何成为⼀个⾃信的⼈？不断坚持、和⾃⼰对话…冠军教练IvanJoph有⼀些技巧教给⼤家多少⼈

⼀碰到失败就放弃了？多少⼈⼀遇到困难就退缩了？不管机遇如何，困难多⼤，哪怕⾝处逆境，相信⾃⼰可以做到，这

就是⾃信。如何成为⼀个⾃信的⼈？不断坚持、和⾃⼰对话…冠军教练IvanJoph有⼀些技巧教给⼤家

演讲者：IvanJoph

⽚长：13：20

中英⽂演讲稿

⾃信的定义：相信⾃⼰有在任何困难的情况下完成任务的能⼒。⾃信就是相信⾃⼰能够做到。

⾃信是⼀种技能，是能够培育出来的。

如何提升⾃信：

1、重复重复再重复。当你的技能通过不断刻意练习⽽变得炉⽕纯青之后，就容易获得⾃信。在反复练习的过程中，你

遇到的困难是如何在失败后不⽓馁，如何在平台期时不急躁。

实⼒是⾃信的资本。对于⾃⼰做得好的事情，我们往往会更有⾃信。所以，努⼒提⾼⾃⼰的实⼒会让⾃⼰更⾃信。

2、⾃我激励。在和⾃⼰对话的时候⽤积极正⾯的想法替换掉之前消极的想法。

已经有太多⼈认为我们做不到，认为我们不够好了，为什么我们⾃⼰也要那么想呢？要相信我是⾃⼰⽣活的主宰。如果

⾃⼰都不相信，⼜会有谁相信呢？

3、远离那些会拖你后腿的⼈。

或许我们⾝边总是不乏这样的⼈，在我们追逐梦想的时候，总是冷嘲热讽。我们需要坚持梦想，不去听那些⼈的声⾳，

等你爬的更⾼，那些声⾳也就听不到了。我们要多和志同道合、可以互相⿎励的⼈在⼀起。

4、给⾃⼰写⾃夸信，记录⽣命中辉煌的时刻。

写下⾃⼰的成就事件，当你意志消沉的时候就拿出来看看，就会发现其实⾃⼰也挺厉害的呢。

5、改变⾃⼰的解读⽅式。多做正⾯、积极的解读。

如何帮助别⼈建⽴⾃信：恰当地夸赞别⼈做得好的地⽅，把注意⼒放在别⼈的优点上⾯。

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