communicate

Iwanttotellyouaboutmyfeelings.

Communicationislikeplayingcatch.

Ithrowtheballandyoucatchit.

ThenyouthrowtheballandIcatchit.

And,again,Ithrowtheball……

“Iwanttotellyouaboutmyfeelings.”

Thatwashowcommunicationbegan.

Justasweneedtothrowtheball

backandforthtohaveagametocatch.

Weneedtotelleachotherourfeelingsto

communicate.

Ifyouaretooclotogether

orifyouaretoofarawayfromeachother,

it’snoteasytoplaycatch.

Communicationisthesame.

Ifyouaretoocloortoofarawayfrom

yourloveroryourfriendor

yourchildoryourparents,

it’snoteasytocommunicate.

Communicationdoesn’tbegin

withbothpeoplespeakingatthesametime

Onesideortheothermustmakethesamemove.

Someonehastothrowthefirstball.

Butyoumightnotwanttothrow

Theballfirst---youmightwanttowait

forsomeonetothrowittoyou.

(Becauwhenyouthrowitandnoone

triestocatchit,youareunhappy.)

Therearetimes

whenyouareunexpectedlyrejected.

Therearetimeswhenyouthrowtheball,

wantingtoplaycatchwithanotherperson,

onlytohavethatpersonthrowittosomeoneel.

Fromanearlyage,

webecomeudtohavingsomepeoplenot

listentowhatwearesaying.

“I’mbusynow,”theysay.

“We’lltalklater,ok?”

So,wejustwindupthinking,

“Itdoesn’tmatterwhatIsay,anyway.”

That’swhyittakescouragetobefirst

tothrowtheball.

Sometimesyoufinallygetthecourage

tothrowtheballtoanotherperson

onlytohavehimtossitaway.

Hasthiverhappenedtoyou?

Oryouthrowtheballstraightfromheart,

onlytohavethepersonyouthrewittokickitback..

Hasthiverhappenedtoyou?

Oryouthrowaballthatisafootindiameter

butwhenitcomesback,it’sonlytwoinches…..

Hasthiverhappenedtoyou?

Haveyoueversaidtoyourlf,

“Ratherthanthrowtheballmylf,andbeunhappy,

it’sbetternottothrowtheballatall;

I’llwaitforsomeonetothrowittome?”

Butwhatifnobodythrowsittoyou….?

Youaren’ttheonlyone

whoisunexpectedlyrejected,

whohastheballkickedback,

whoisunhappy.

Maybeyoukickballssometimestoo,

andmakesomeoneelunhappy,

anddon’tyouknowyouaredoingit!

Weallwanttohavetheballswethrowreceived.

Weallwanttohavepeoplelistentowhatwewearesaying.

Weallwantpeopletorealizeweexist.

So,whointheworldisgoingtoacknowledge

Allthepeoplewhowanttobacknowledged?

Ifthepersonyouthrowittocatchestheballyouthrowfromheart,

andifyoucatchtheballthatpersonthrowsfromheart,

thenonestageofcommunicationisfulfilled.

Butsometimeswefeel,

“Hedidn’tcatchitthewayIwantedhimto!’

Or,“ThereisnowayIcouldcatchtheballthethrewtome!”

Wehavelotsof

Unfulfilledcommunicationslikethat.

Whenunfulfilledcommunicationsaccumulates,

Ouremotionbecomeunstable.

Webecomeupt,

worried,

angry,

prejudiced,

unfriendly.

Onceinawhile,weexplode…..

Then,

littlebylittle,

wegetsowedon’tfeelanything;….

And,soonerorlater,

weareallalone.

Ifthepersontowhomyouthrewtheball

didn’tcatchtheballthewayyouwanted,

don’tblamethatperson.

Perhapsit’sjustthat

heisn’tverygoodatplayingcatch.

Perhapsit’sjustthat

hewasnervous,andhishandslipped.

Perhapsit’sjustthat

yourballwastooheavy.

Ifyourbossoryourparentsorpartner

neverletyouhaveyoursay,howdoyoufeel?

Ifthreeorfourballsarethrowntoyouatonce,

howdoyoufeel?